April

So much has happened !

New car

At the end of February Arjun bought a brand new car and he got it the day before we left for the UK.

It's an upgraded version of the last car. Arjun and his wife, Manjula, and children Mithun and Yashiswini went with the car to a temple for it to be blessed and then brought it to our house. We all jumped in to have a look and they gave us some sweet cake for the blessing. Arjun parked the car and took his lovely family home.

We were up early ready for the flight to the UK and set off for the airport about 6am. All was going well, when Arjun indicated to turn left into a garage for fuel. All of a sudden, from our left a motor bike shot forward and crashed into us. The car took quite a bump. Arjun said to stay in the car because there was a mad man wielding a pole (we think he was drunk - the man not Arjun) It seems the pole man had stepped out into the road and the motorbike had accelerated to get out of the way and hit us. But, unfortunately, the motor bike sped off without stopping. Poor Arjun! The car had a dent on the left hand side and the car wasn't even 24 hours old.  We all got out to have a look. He was very stoical and shrugged his shoulders, but what a blow.
Milo thought we were doomed and saw it as a bad omen and didn't want to continue. After a bit of reassurance he was fine and we managed to get him back in the car.

UK

The flight to England was in two stages. 4 hours from Bangalore to Dubai. A quick dash across the airport to get the next flight and then another 7 hours or so Dubai to Heathrow. The second leg is on an A380 so its smooth and very quiet so it's not bad. There's lots of films to watch so it goes quickly.

We arrived at 7.00pm ish UK time which is (00:30am) our time. After we had recovered our cases (we checked that they were ours, as we didn't want to repeat what Derek and Christine did) the first place to go was the Marks and Spencers food shop. It was so exciting! Real sandwiches for the first time in two years. We all were allowed to buy whatever we wanted and came out of the shop with two carrier bags full.

We managed to get the bus from the terminal to the hotel and I was so pleased that I 'd packed the thick coats and gloves at the top of the cases. It was FREEZING!
I have never been so pleased to see a Premier Inn. It was warm and clean. We had a family room and all went to bed after our Marks and Spencer picnic, the best picnic ever.

But at 3 am some of us were wide awake! We were on Bangalore time. Milo was making shadow puppets on the wall and Andrew and I were drinking tea and eating biscuits  and eyeing up the rest of the Marks and Spencer's food. (Max didn't wake even when we decided to get up, it was a struggle to wake him)

As we were awake so early, we decided that as the car hire place opened at 5.00am , then Milo and Andrew would go and fetch the car so that we could go early to Skegness and then when the jet lag set in, at least we would be in the right place.
They got a taxi to the car hire place. Max and I waited at the hotel and packed everything and as Milo and Andrew arrived we went out into the cold. We loaded the cases, (we had four large ones, one being a sort of spare, so that we could buy our favourite things). All was going well, but then we encountered our first problem at 5:30am. I had managed to lock the keys (the only set of keys) in the boot of the hire car. Lots of swearing occurred and then Andrew realised the driver's door was still unlocked . We persuaded the smallest child to crawl through the car to the back to retrieve Andrew's coat with the keys in.

We were off the hook and on our way!

It was a quick and smooth journey to Peterborough (McDonald's breakfast) and then onwards to Skegness. After two years in the busiest car city in the world, we were amazed at how empty everything was. No cars, no people, no cows (wandering on the motorway) no people oblivious to the traffic, no tractors going the wrong way down the road. We had forgotten all of this. It was so easy.



  McDonald's in Peterborough

We arrived in Skegness at 11 am and we were stopping at Andrew's Mum and Dad's. After unloading, we did a quick trip to our house to see if everything was ok. It was in good shape and we were pleased to see the new (flood insurance claim) ensuite that we hadn't seen before we left for India.

By 4pm we were flagging and cold and needed a sleep. Our excitement at having fish and chips wasn't too successful as we were so tired that we could hardly function.

But it was so lovely to see our friends and family over the following days.


  The boys were proper Skegness tourists





 Freezing on the beach












 Milo and all his buddies at the pub



 One of our friends has a Porsche and the car                                                                                       mad boys had a sit in it.











We visited Max and Milo's cousins












 That's Granny there too.



 We sat and ate another picnic in the car looking at the                                                                       beach ( too cold to get out !)





 We went to the supermarket and shopped for                                                                                       the things that we desired.








 Another pub meal before we left.



 Harry, Milo and Alfie

Saturday evening was spent at the local pub with our friends which was wonderful to see everyone , Sunday and Monday with friends and family but we got so carried away, we didn't take many photos!
Tuesday was food shopping (very important)

But then on Wednesday, we were on our way back to London for the football match at Stamford Bridge, Chelsea.

The Match - Chelsea vs Liverpool

So this was the real reason we had travelled so far for such a short period of time. A week in the UK  (in cold weather) is not enough to get over the tiredness. We felt we were in a confused whirl, but now we were at Chelsea football club.
Milo had been selected from the waiting list to be a child mascot, leading the players onto the pitch plus all of the other experiences. He had been on the list, thanks to Andrew, since he was 18 months old, so at 10 years and 8 months this was the last opportunity to be selected before they chop anyone reaching 11 years old off the list! 

We had booked the night in the hotel that is adjacent to the club. This was a very wise decision as it meant we were close. Again it was so cold so it meant we could be in the hotel until the last minute.

 Liverpool's bus .

 The child mascots had to wear a bright vest.

 waiting for the teams to arrive - the excitement                                                                                   level increases!.

 This is a great photo. Andrew and Max are in                                                                                     the background.

 Milo is the second to lead out, with the goalie

 The matchday programme - Milo top right.

In fact, it was so cold that Andrew took Milo to the Chelsea shop to buy another Chelsea training shirt to go under his kit. 

It was a wonderful chance in a lifetime experience for Milo, Max and Andrew. They got to greet the players off the buses (both teams) Then Milo was taken to have some snacks and  to wait in the tunnel with the players. Meanwhile Andrew and Max went to take their seats. I was in the hotel watching everything live on BBC TV.

It was so exciting.!

Milo was second out walking with the goalie (Kepa). Milo fist bumped the players (as it was the beginning of the Covid 19 and handshakes were not allowed), had his photo taken lots of times and then got to watch the players warm up at the side of the pitch. One of the lady supervisors held all the children's coats until they got off the pitch. Andrew had a bag full of track suit bottoms, gloves and hats waiting for Milo when he came back.

Apparently the match was very good (I fell asleep..) and they were so excited when they came back winners 2-0 knocking invincible Liverpool out of the FA Cup. Andrew had shouted so loudly that he had lost his voice and he was still croaky the next day. 

         

Windsor 

The next day was a recovery day and we decided to go for a walk in Windsor. It was very rainy and gray. But it was nice to go for a walk. We stopped close to the airport ready for the journey back to Bangalore .














Lamborghini hire car - Andrew wasn't allowed this one!

Dubai

We had decided to stop on the way back in Dubai to break the journey back to Bangalore as we knew that we would be tired.  We landed at about 7 pm and we hired a car. That was an adventure in itself. Unfortunately, it did not have any satellite navigation and we had to rely on Andrew's phone. I like to think that I'm good at map reading but I couldn't work Andrew''s map that he gave me. We didn't get too lost and made it to the resort that we had stayed at before when we first set off to live in India. 

We went to the 'Palm' where the very posh                                                                                          hotel was located.



 Sunset at the resort where we stayed.




 The boys with the hire car.



 We went to the Marriott and had a meal on a                                                                                       high floor ( I can"t remember )














We went to the shopping mall  to see the light show in front of the  Burj Khalifa.





The car park was full of high range cars. Milo stood by his                                                                ride - a Lamborghini 'somethingador'.

Our brief stopover in Dubai allowed us to pack a great deal in to the couple of days and we have promised to do a proper trip when we have time to do more 'Boy' related activities such as waterparks and water sports, whilst I relax on the sun lounger doing what I'm good at!

Covid 19

After nearly missing the flight home (due to my map reading and getting us lost for quite some time!) we arrived back at the airport .on the flight there were not many people in masks or any major notices about the new virus. The air stewardess just said we had to fill in extra forms. As went went in to immigration, we had to fill in another 8 forms ( with nothing to lean on to write, people were sat on the floor!) Then we had our  temperatures taken , the doctor asked us a few questions and they let us through . Only if you had come through certain countries did you have to be quarantined. Dubai and  the UK were not on the list  (you need to remember this point for later!)

So we found our cases, Arjun and went back to our home. 

The next day, Andrew went to work but we kept the boys off because they were so tired. No real news about Covid 19 other than the dreadful news coming from Italy etc. Mala came and we were so pleased to see her.

The day after was Tuesday and Max went to school, Milo didn't go as he was still tired. 

I was sat by the pool in the afternoon, when the headteacher rang to ask why we had sent Max to school as he had been to Dubai. So I said that the airport didn't have it on the list. She said please could we keep Max off school for the next week just in case. That was fine ( and of course Max thought it was great)

By the following day all nurseries and primary schools were closed .

Then they closed the swimming pool ( definitely not good, it's the hottest time of the year ). 

In our community we carried on seeing our friends but only close friends. 

Then we had to fill in a form to say where we had travelled. The committee decided that no maids or outside people could come inside. So no Mala or Arjun! 

Then the police called Andrew and said that they were coming to visit us....(Andrew apparently decided to have his last shower, gather some cash and charge his phone fearing a trip to the station!

At this point, India was putting people into quarantine hospitals as they had decided to change the rule about how they thought the virus could spread and the time scale form when it could spread etc. This has carried on with the same theme were announcements are made and updates keeping happening nationally and locally in the state (not even the officials are sure what is in place at a particular time!). By this time we had been back for 13 days. Andrew and I were slightly anxious and waited for our visit. 

The next morning a police man, security officer and a health official arrived.

We were told that we had to be quarantined in our house (phew!) for the next day and we mustn't leave. There had been positive cases where people had travelled from Dubai. Luckily they saw a little bit of sense and when the man with his semi permanent ink 'hand stamping pad' was convinced that having all of us with a big red 'quarantine' stamp wasn't really sensible for the final day! Many people that have had these tattoos have been 'hounded' if seen outside, so that would not have been very pleasant.

Fair enough.

So we had the rest of the day in quarantine then as we were to be set free, India went into the first lockdown. So we were going nowhere fast!

Initially it was quite brutal for some of the people in Bangalore as the police started to use their sticks to get people to go home. But instead of checking why someone was out they just used force and this meant that deliveries couldn't get through due to the police hitting the delivery people. 

After lots of coverage on TV, there was a big meeting with the police, government and food companies and it was all sorted. Food companies all have special passes for the delivery people and so this has helped with the food deliveries. 

Luckily, we have managed to get enough food and the online ordering is reasonably efficient. It has improved week by week. ( I'm not so sure about all of India but our area in Bangalore is fine)

The poorer migrant workers have had a very tough time though but there are lots of charities working hard to resolve this and to provide food for them and the things that they need. The thing is that India is an enormous country with a huge population and things do go wrong.

At the moment, if you want to go to the shops, only food shops, you can walk there  and practise social distancing and you must wear a mask. But you can not go in the car (but the online ordering is good enough that there's no need) Medicines are delivered too and come within a couple of hours.

Max and Milo's school has switched to online schooling and it is all day and very efficient. 

If you need to see a doctor, again you can get an online consultation. We have even ordered a set of the Indian produced President Trump endorsed 'miracle drug' - Hydroxychloroquine, that cost about £15. It's in the medical drawer should we ever need it!

Andrew is working from home and it's fun when he's on an important call, keeping Milo quiet.

I am doing all of Mala's jobs, of course. When she's back she's got to show me how she manages to keep the floors so sparkly. When I mop it's all smeared.

I am fed up of cooking and sorting vegetables and fruits.

It's mango and grape / vegetable season and the farmers come directly to the gate ( we are so lucky). The fruit is so sweet and you get huge bagfuls. 

But then you have to wash ( 2 or 3 times so no water diseases ) then chop, squeeze, preserve the fruit etc.  It takes so long ! But it is worth it . I don't think we've ever eaten so healthily.

I can't wait for Mala to come back. She chooses not to have coffee breaks  saying she likes to work but when she's back they will be forced upon her ....sweeping , mopping and cooking in this heat is like a punishment ! 

February Blog

The time has gone so quickly since the beginning of December.

None of us developed rabies, so that was good and Mala is back to her usual self and not quite as mad as she was. Milo is also better ( he had a very bad dose of proper flu and was unwell on and off for about 6 weeks )

 Mala and Milo in the garden. Both having recovered from their ordeals.

Weather 

Fortunately, the weather is back to normal and we have a choice of sunbathing and swimming days again. This time of year is perfect because it is cool at night (18 degrees so sleeping is easier) and then hot and sunny in the day ( 28 - 30 degrees).

Christmas Holidays

We spent a very relaxed day at The Leela Palace for Christmas day with some friends. Max and Milo were in awe of the singer who we often meet at parties. They knew he was a singer but hadn't heard him sing until then. Milo is now on the list for a local music teacher so he can restart his guitar lessons. Milo has always been very good at singing and this has encouraged him even more.  But we've had to suggest to him that 7 in the morning is not a good time to fire up his boom box, microphone and Alexa music thingy to practise his singing!

Bangalore city centre 

We're beginning to forget what Andrew looks like as he is so busy at the factory so when he had a weekend off we decided to look for somewhere to go in hotel. We had some vouchers for a hotel stay and they needed using so we had a staycation in Bangalore in the city centre to explore the metro, local park and some posh shops (we looked through the windows).
It was a lot of fun.







             

The Factory

Over the Christmas holidays, we decided that the boys needed to go and see the factory progress.  It has come on a long way. Milo was surprised to learn that Andrew was in charge! We don't really know what he was thinking.  Milo likes to pretend that he is the boss of an office and had a great time looking at the factory plans in the portakabin and telling everyone what they needed to do before we set off to look around.








We wore helmets, protective shoes and flashy jackets and had a two hour tour. The Engineering Head (Melgiri) very kindly bought a New Year cake and some drinks for us and the security guard made the best coffee that I'd had in ages. On the washroom front,  I was pleased to see there was an executive porta-toilet and not the local bush variety.

  This is our friend Joe inspecting the superior visitor only toilet.

Grandma and Grandad Arrive

Then in January, Derek and Christine arrived. Their plane arrived early in the morning so we decided that Arjun would fetch them and we would greet them here. Now, we had a scheduled time that they would arrive but they were rather late and this is why....

Arjun had managed to find them as they came out of the terminal building and as he always does he takes control of pushing the luggage trolley to the car. He then loads the cases into the car. As he was about to do this, Christine looked at the cases and realised that one of them wasn't theirs. A quick check of the luggage label confirmed this and Derek and Arjun rushed back to the terminal. Now, in India you can only get access to the terminal if you have your ticket but, of course, their journey was completed so they weren't allowed back inside. After approaching several outside desks with official people behind them, someone took charge and rang inside but there was no suitcase going round and round on the carousel by itself!

Then, the doors opened and a group of German tourists came out and one lady was pushing their suitcase. It appeared that both suitcases were grey with a red ribbon tied around the handle, and difficult to tell apart (even though there was a label on it ...) After much apologising, the suitcases were exchanged and everyone was happy.
No international crisis occurred!

So, Arjun double checked everything, the cases were loaded and they arrived at our house. After greeting them, they told their suitcase tale.
We were having palpitations at the thought that we could have lost all our food treats in the suitcase scenario. Max and Milo love their grandparents dearly but the thought of the promise of Walker's crisps, chocolate, biscuits and their favourite cereals, sausage rolls and proper sausages being elsewhere in Bangalore with a stranger, would have been a disaster.

   Sausage dinner

A sausage dinner followed and all the suitcase trauma was forgotten. We did our usual dividing of the chocolate supplies and bartering to swap any chocolate that is not a favourite. All supplies are then put in a named bag. Andrew even made an inventory to make sure no one stole any of his (there's no trust in this family when it comes to chocolate!)

  Chocolate division.

Max

Max had his sport's day in the first week that Derek and Christine were here. He's gone from being a tiny little boy who struggled to keep up in the running races in the UK to coming second in the 100 metres only loosing to a boy who runs for India. We couldn't believe it when he shot past us, he ran so fast and he was so determined. His running technique was good too. We were so proud.
We were also proud because Max has won an award for academic achievement at school and feel a bit more reassured that he might not have to sit on a bench shouting at the traffic in Skegness when he leaves here.

Local 'Wild Karnataka'

We have been to the cinema to see a wild life film narrated by Sir David Attenborough. It's all about Karnataka ( the area that we live in ) It was wonderful, showing the tigers, leopards and elephants that are only a few hours away from the city. It really is worth watching if it comes to the UK.

We've been to the local safari park in the south of Bangalore ( a bit like Longleat but they let the elephants out at the weekend to roam in the forest. We never established if they let the tigers out ...)
We had a protected jeep with wire covering everything except for a small hole where you could put you camera. It was a lovely day out.

Parties

We've been to quite a few parties with our friends in Palm Meadows and even had a karaoke night where Milo proved that he is definitely the best singer.







We have all visited the factory and helped to choose the colour of the inside walls so we're keeping our fingers crossed that it will look ok.
















Outside the factory





It was Derek and Christine's 55th wedding anniversary and so went to a lovely hotel for lunch. The manager presented them with a beautiful cake and our friend Shaun was there again to sing ( he sings at many hotels apparently)

Snakes

In our current house the toilet that Mala and Arjun use is just off the kitchen. So when they are there, we leave the backdoor unlocked. We had been on an outing and, when we returned Christine made a cup of tea for everyone one and said she had done the door for Arjun.
Two hours later, I went into the kitchen and there was the door wide open.
Wide open!
Frantically, I did a quick look around the kitchen and in hidey holes but saw nothing. After politely raising the point that unlocked is slightly different to wide open, all was ok - for about half an hour. A new neighbour in the next street put a photo on the community app innocently asking if the beautiful snake in their garden was dangerous. It was a Cobra.



So on our evening walk, the intrepid Coles took their torches and went snake hunting. We didn't find anything.
But then a few nights ago we were getting ready to go to a party and Max was outside when he started shouting for us to call the snake catcher.
There, in the road next to the curb was along thin stripy snake. I pressed the emergency button on the app and the guards were there quickly.
You'd think we would have learned our lesson from the Cobra incidence that we had in the last house. But, oh no, Andrew suggests that someone should fetch him some gloves as it's only a baby. Meanwhile as the guards try to snap it with the snake tongues, it slithered down the drain and escaped so there was no need for the gloves.We went to the party and thought no more.

The next morning I decided to research what the snake could be. Well, it could be one of either, a deadly Krait (you die within 4 hours if you don't realise you've been bitten as the bite is not painful. A lot of people in Indian die this way because the Krait hunts at night and will slip into people's houses and into their beds. The people move, they get bitten but don't know, they are then found dead the next morning) or a harmless Wolf Snake which won't hurt anyone.
Either way I have told Andrew to stay away from all snakes and to not think he's a snake catcher off the TV.
My friend Sindhu had said always walk down the middle of the road at night and shine the torch at the ground  and not to attempt anything....

Milo

Then it was Milo's sport's day and he came second in his heats but didn't quite make it to the final but he was chosen for the relay. He ran so well, just like his brother. I'm pleased he came home with a medal, it made his day.

Tuk tuk tour

In Bangalore, one of the fun things to do is to go on a guided tuk tuk tour. So, on the last Sunday before Derek and Christine left we decided to do this. Unfortunately, on the actually day, I wasn't feeling well so stayed at home. But it cheered me up no end when Andrew sent a message to say that their shoes had been stolen from outside the temple! I was in hysterics, I couldn't stop laughing!
Usually, when you go to the temple there is a woman who puts your shoes in a locker and you get a ticket but no one was there. So, they left their shoes outside the room unattended. When they came back, Andrew's,Derek's, Christine's and Tariq the guide's shoes were all missing. Max and Milo's were still there. They had to walk in their socks to the tuk tuk to go and find a shoe shop that was open. The staff were mildly amused as their first four customers of the day walked in barefooted or in socks!

Chelsea Football Club

Early next month we shall be in the UK. Milo has been selected to be a child mascot for Chelsea football club on Tuesday 3rd March. It will be televised on the BBC. I think Andrew is the one who is most excited, followed by Max ( who is now too old to be a mascot ) and then Milo. I will be in the hotel watching as we can only have 3 tickets and Max is having mine ..... Milo ( and Andrew) get to meet the players off the bus, do a warm up with them and then Milo gets to go out onto to the pitch with the players. I was hoping for another trip to the Maldives for our 30th wedding anniversary but it looks like this is what we'll be doing instead! It's rather exciting though.

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December

Rabies

So we've had a bit of a scare and a wake up call about living in a tropical country.

Our friends have a lovely dog and she is kind and well behaved. Somebody else knew this and asked our friends if they could look after a puppy (who had lost its' mother) until it could be rehoused. They agreed thinking the dog was vaccinated with some vaccines.
This was in the beginning of November. On November 9th, Milo went to play with the puppy and all was well.

The following Monday, both Max and Milo came down with a flu bug and were off school all week so they didn't have contact with the pup, bless them they were really unwell and even stayed in bed.
Then, on Saturday 16th, we had invited a few people over for pizza and our friends brought the puppy. So everyone touched the pup apart from Andrew and I because we were cooking.

On Monday 18th November the pup started to go off its food and on the Tuesday it was showing signs of aggression so our friends took it to the vets.

The vet thought it was rabies.

He recommended that everyone who had come into contact with the dog needed to be vaccinated.

At this point, I was quite calm as I thought that you had to be bitten to get rabies. Of course, I 'Googled' :-

I was no longer calm as the virus can live in saliva and live for 2 hours on a dog's coat. If you then rub your eyes, the virus has a way in. If the dog licks you, the virus has a way in. There is no cure for rabies and, basically, you die a painful death quite quickly.

On the Wednesday morning, I made appointments for the boys to be vaccinated. Milo was convinced he was dying that morning from having his heavy cold and then I had to tell him that he needed an injection ( or 5 !)  I had been telling him that you don't need injections for a cold/flu only for this to happen. He was so upset that he thought he was then dying from rabies.

We waited for Max to come home from school and set off for the hospital. I got Andrew to come with us in case we had to pin Milo down.... Our friends turned up at the same time to be vaccinated too. It meant that Milo didn't scream quite as loudly as they injected him in his leg.

Weigh in time prior to the vaccinations!

For the rabies vaccination you have to have 5 injections post exposure on set days. ( 0,3,7,14,28)

On the Thursday, the dog died and the vet did a post mortem.
The dog definitely had rabies.

Meanwhile, everyone who had been to our house was trooping to the hospital. The doctor stopped asking what had happened and just prescribed the vaccine as soon as they said we touched a dog ....

I am not vaccinated but thought I may as well get the 3 jabs for rabies ( preventative) so I went to the hospital too, on a day that the boys weren't being vaccinated.
I saw an immunologist who absolutely frightened me to death. They don't know enough about rabies to even guarantee that the vaccine is 100% proof! They are not 100 % sure exactly how it is spread.

I told him that I hadn't touched the dog but he didn't care, I was prescribed the 5 doses too and I had to have tetanus and he told me all about that terrible disease too! So double whammy!

We are nearly finished with the course of jabs but it was a bad move getting them on different days as it has meant numerous trips to the hospital when we could have all gone together .
Never mind, at least we've made friends with some very kind nurses and Milo has realised that he is not dying ( although he's still not in top shape )

Thanksgiving

We have some very kind American friends and they invited a few people over to celebrate Thanksgiving with them at their home. They had managed to find a supplier for two fresh turkeys and caterers to make other important elements of their famous dinner. It was a very entertaining evening. We were very proud when both go our boys stood to stay why they were thankful to the roomful of people. They both spoke confidently and clearly to their audience.

Weather

It's been very cloudy for about 2 weeks now and we've actually been forced to put on jumpers at times. The locals are very concerned as usually once Diwali is finished, the sun comes out and everything is good with the weather ( just cooler nights) But the clouds have stayed as the second monsoon, that comes from the East, has lasted for longer. The temperature is about 23 degrees in the day and drops to 18 at night. If the sun does come out for a brief moment the heat is overwhelming. We've got swimming pool and sunbathing withdrawal symptoms.

The sun should be out again soon.

Factory

Andrew's team arranged a mini celebration for the fact that there had been 100000 construction 'man-hours' worked with no injuries for the workers at the building site. The building team gave a 'pep talk' about the importance of safety and then gave out blankets to the some workers who had done an especially  good job. The labourers all live close by to the factory and the conditions that they live in are very basic. Blankets were considered a good gift to help them out. A nice Indian meal was then enjoyed at site by everyone in attendance.

Mala 

Mala is on a roll at the moment. I don't think she's getting married but her mind is not on the job. She's very absent minded. Everyday she asks what food we want for the evening or during the day. She always makes bread and things like coleslaw and whatever we fancy for our evening meal. If I try to do something, she eases me out of the kitchen with cries of "you'll be tired , Ma'am''
I keep explaining that I am able to make a meal without getting exhausted but it's just met with a sigh ( because Mala sees it as her job and not mine)
  The other day she was making coleslaw and said she'd put it in a bowl in the fridge. I went to get some and there was just some shredded cabbage in mayonnaise. As I was thinking carefully how I how I could approach this matter without upsetting her, she noticed her mistake. Lots of arm wailing ensued, much pacing up and down the kitchen and then she began opening and shutting cupboards, obviously looking for something. Apparently she had cut up the carrots and the onions but couldn't remember what she'd done with them.
"I'm thinking, thinking ...it's terrible " she kept repeating.
  The searching went on for some time and nothing was found ( I think in her constant clearing away she may have thrown them away by mistake )
I tried telling her that the fact that 2 carrots and an onion were missing was not that bad in the grand scheme of things and to just do some more and not to worry.
That set her off on her no wasting campaign speech and about the poor people outside the gate.
There was no way out of this one, Mala kept saying she was sorry and how awful it was.
When she had calmed down, I went over the fact that everyone makes mistakes and for her not to worry so much ( and to me it was not a worry)
She carried on with her other duties, still tutting and muttering under her breath.
Later, when I tried to have some coleslaw again, the cabbage in mayonnaise was still there all by itself. It actually doesn't taste that bad.
I'm hoping that whatever is bothering her eases or I'll have to start making things in secret when she's not looking.

We've moved house!

More boxes to unpack! 

Whenever we  have decided to move house it has always been quick and with little time for preparation. This time it was no different.

We actually didn't intend on moving. It all started when we went to a friend's house for a party. They had had to move because their landlord was moving back to Bangalore. They had a beautiful house but the new one was even better. Our contract was coming up for renewal but there was something similar in the back of our minds that niggled. We liked living in the house, it's quiet and in a good position but we kept returning to the fact that we didn't have a covered terrace that was in the shade. As the sun moved round then so did we as we would have to shade hop.   

So in mid September as I was setting off for the shops, I happen to say to Arjun about a covered terrace and how nice it would be. He said that his friend knew of a lot of empty houses in Palm Meadows and that we could go and look. In a matter of minutes, after saying this, we were in an empty house looking around. Down one street alone there were 4 empty houses.

 I was quite impressed and rang Andrew and the boys who were at home doing various things. Andrew was not interested in moving house as he is really busy and was reluctant to look, but when he did see the options he changed his mind. Milo went into excitement overload and had chosen a bedroom each time we looked at a different house, he is always up for anything new. Max was cool and determined to be closer to the club house.
Within a week we had found a house, negotiated, had a contract drawn up, a deposit put down and the removal people in to set a date. The house is closer to the club house, bus stop and with terraces that are covered and with fans and fully provisioned with mosquito nets (an essential around here!). It has a proper kitchen with a proper oven. ( the old house was a bit like living in student digs)  It's further from the shop but this means it's more difficult for Milo to sneak in and buy sweets as he doesn't walk past it any more.

We had a moving day for November 1st. We actually moved in on October 10th ! 

It was mad . The new landlord was happy for us to move in early and this meant that we could tidy up the other house without rushing. 

But, and there's always a but with the Coles, Andrew was super tied up with a colleague from the UK
 and so couldn't help at all. So it was Arjun, Mala and I ...

The removals here are very very fast . There must have been at least 15 men who turned up and all set about swiftly wrapping and packing and loading  boxes onto the van.

Meanwhile, at the new house, there were 'professional ' cleaners who reckoned it would take 7 hours to clean the house. The removal men laughed, 2 hours they claimed and the rest of the time the cleaners would sit outside and watch their phones. 

Which is exactly what they did. I cycled round to check on the progress to find 5 men sat outside and, obviously, the new boy inside cleaning. Cleaning would be a rather loose term . He had one dingy cloth that he cleaned everything with. And I mean everything. The toilets, sinks and light switches . The water was mud coloured and absolutely disgusting.

Note that this is not the actual moving day as Andrew, Milo and Max had abandoned me at that point!

I decided on not saying anything as that would mean he would rinse his one cloth and try again to please me. I said thank you very much, and shoved him out the door. 

I cycled back to the other house only to pass the van on its way. I grabbed some cleaning things and dashed back. Now, at this point, Mala is mortified that I was actually going to do some cleaning as that is her job  and tried to take the cleaning things back off me but I needed her to stop at the old house to watch the spare men who didn't speak English while Arjun came with me to watch the others at the new house. I managed to break free  So I re-cleaned all the bathrooms and switches until I was quite happy.

The men rotation went on all day until several rooms were done but the beds remained in the old house so we slept there for a further night..

The next day the same thing happened but we had a major crisis. Andrew needed Arjun (very inconsiderate) and Mala's brother had told her she couldn't work that day as she needed to go to the temple to meet a boy for a potential marriage match. She turned up in defiance but Mala was creating more chaos yelling down the phone than all the men charging around packing. She was pacing up and down, waving her arms and speaking in a very rapid high pitch shrill.

She definitely wasn't happy. She demanded that I speak to her brother ( he doesn't speak English) to tell him that she doesn't want to get married and that she had to work. He told her that she had to go to the temple. So what with the men asking which things needed to go in what box and which room and her yelling down the phone , chaos was tame word.

Then Mala's sister turned up to escort her to the temple. I decided to cut my losses and send her off as the yelling and negotiating with her brother was all too much. 

So two houses to watch and 15 men to tell where to put things in two houses.  Then to add to everything, the flipping aircon man turned up to service the AC in the new house. The neighbours were away (how inconsiderate!) but by chance a friend sent a message saying what was I up to?
 She was dispatched immediately to monitor the AC guys. Then the plumber turned up .... Luckily Joeline is very good at sorting men out and is very persuasive so she dealt with the new house.
Back at the old house the gardener turned up and added to the confusion. I set him potting up plants and picking the beans that had grown. The speed he works at meant he was gone for a while and was one less man to deal with.
But, by the end of the day, all the furniture was in place and we were in. Andrew and the boys casually strolled in and were pleased completely unaware of the chaos that had reigned. I demanded wine and pizza as I wasn't cooking and basically stared into space.

It was so exciting as we sat on the upstairs terrace surrounded by beautiful trees and a lovely view.